The Broken-Heart Cycle

There are so many beautiful and awesome love stories in paperbacks, movies, television drama series, sagas and even in the internet. Love has always been a favorite subject. All these sell like hot cakes. The truth is every person has his/her own side of romanticism. Every person has experienced love, falling in love and falling out of love. I believe that there is not a human being who is not into a relationship. However, beautiful it may be, love stories do not always end beautifully. Sometimes they end and causes hearts broken.

I believe that the meeting of two persons vary and sometimes they are unique and rare. But generally, a boy and a girl meets. The man and the woman are attracted. They connect and go for that initial date and they plunge into an ecstatic relationship. This maybe overwhelming and intense at first but as the relationship goes on its course, something and somehow causes a hitch or a problem. The man meets another woman more attractive and leaves the woman emotionally hurt. It can also be that the lady sees flaws that she finds hard to reconcile with the gentleman and she finally lets him go.

It may also be the other way around that the gentleman may just leaves because of the realization that she is not for him. Whatever are the reasons, a relationship may end which is devastating to both. Man or woman choses to be with the new lover as a sign that he/she is moving on and life goes on. So many variations, yet revolves around the same script. I call it as the broken heart cycle. Usually, in a relationship, it is the lady who has a hard time handling the situation. She may not take a new lover immediately, but will find ways to lure back her lover and it may also be extremely dangerous when she gets back at her lover. Most of those in despair do not seek advice.

There is that fear of opening up to family members and friends as they think of being ridiculed or some other personal reasons. They resort to isolating themselves and go through sleeplessness. Others lock up themselves and sleep unusually very long hours. Some will lose their desire to eat or while some would indulge in eating too much and often. Others would have alcohol and drink unmindful of tomorrow. It is their way of finding relief or what they think as broken heart cycle. Depression is often the result of the broken-heart cycle. Most people undergoing depression do not have any purpose or direction in mind for the reason that their thoughts are not organized during these times.

Ending up in turmoil after an unwanted relationship ending is an emotional issue. It is the emotional attachment that has been disconnected which results to the grieving over the loss of a beloved. The deeper you are emotionally attached to your lover then the more pain it will cause you in case of a break-up. I have seen so many women who got broken hearted and lose their balance about handling the break up. Some go berserk and attack or even insult the new partner of their ex-lovers. I saw women practically stalking their past lovers and their pain would become even more difficult to manage. Some women would ask their ex-lovers to give their relationship another chance and would go to the extent of promising the moon and the stars. I believe there are options to take whenever one experiences the broken-heart cycle.

One needs only a strong faith to hold or cling on to. The faith that states that life goes on and nothing is permanent in this world will make one not to lose balance in a difficult and critical condition such as this. I probably would tell myself that there are more worthy men out there waiting for me. I would go on a rebuilding process which would start from the physical side of myself which must go inwards to my soul. I can be motivated to take this broken-heart cycle as a blessing in disguise and find my beauty and my other attributes and hone them more to make me a beautiful person. It is a cycle that one goes through all over again. For others, it may be a series and still for others, they are rare and few.

I saw others go through the same broken-heart cycle without any significant change from the last experience. Thus the broken-heart cycle can go on and on. I believe, the broken-heart cycle ends when one gives up foolish notions and expectations from a lover. The relationship that is realistic and sober survives the cycle. It is when one is able to accept that the relationship is meant to bring out the best of each other and both work for the same direction will ensure a stop to the broken-heart cycle.

At this point of my life, I am convicted that I shall communicate and work hard together with my partner to realize a goal and the reality that the vicious cycle has to stop. It is not only falling in love with a person that will make things real. It is also the desire of wanting to end a search for the perfect partner for there is no such thing as that. I guess, I have found that somebody and making it real is now the primary concern. The broken-heart cycle comes to an end. A new relationship founded on the love of The Maker is now unfolding. It will not be easy, but the commitment is taken seriously. There is a lot of work ahead to make it work. But nothing is really too difficult when the two focus on the direction of making it work!

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